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Marriage Q&A

Q&A: Making Marriage A Priority

Question: How can I keep marriage a priority when it takes everything I've got to keep the household running? Being a stay-at-home mum of small children isn't easy, but I don't want to neglect my husband.

Q&A: Working As A Team In Our Marriage

Question: My wife and I have been married a little over two years, and we're really struggling with balancing our differences. We want to work as a team, but I think we're each afraid of losing our own identity in the process. How can we reach a happy medium?

Q&A: Enhancing Our Marital Relationship

Question: My husband and I agree that overall, our marriage is in good shape. But we know we can probably do even better. What are some simple things we can try?

Q&A: Keeping Romance Alive

Question: Tell me why it is inevitable for couples with good marriages to go through “flat spots” or “the blahs,” and can you offer more advice about what to do when those times come?

Q&A: Spending Time To Talk To Each Other Again

Question: Communication has become an issue with our family. It seems none of us spend time talking anymore. I don’t know how this happened, but I’m concerned about how it’s affecting our relationships. What can I do to change the situation?

Q&A: Having A Conversation With My Spouse

Question: How can we get a break from the children once in a while? Ever since they came along we can’t even find two minutes to sit down and have a meaningful conversation.

Q&A: Keeping your date nights on track

Question: My husband and I are trying to do regular date nights, but it seems like we always end up talking (even arguing) about problems at home instead of having fun and enjoying each other’s company. How can we keep our dates on track?

Q&A: Realising Our Interests Are Different

Question: My husband and I were married this past March. We had a great few months and especially enjoyed doing things together during the weekend. Then came August – and with it English Premier League season. I knew my husband was a fan, but now that we’re married I’d prefer to be spending Saturdays doing things together that we’re both interested in rather than waiting around while he’s watching his favourite football team on TV. Is this situation something I should be worried about?

Q&A: Making Marriage Work – Conflict Resolution

Question: You have said every healthy married couple should learn how to fight. What do you mean by that?

Q&A: Handling Marital Conflict

Question: I’m newly married and have been surprised and disturbed by the amount of conflict we’ve experienced in our relationship. This rarely happened when we were dating. Is something wrong?

Q&A: Experiencing Marital Conflict

Question: My spouse and I sometimes experience significant marital conflict. When that happens I usually shut down, and it’s really hurting our marriage. I’m a visual person – can you give me a mental picture that I can retrieve in times of stress to help me engage in a healthy way?

Q&A: Bickering In Our Marriage About Everything

Question: Lately, it seems my husband and I are always bickering. If it’s not one thing, it’s another: money, sex, work, children, housework – you name it. Neither of us want to argue – but we can’t seem to help ourselves. What’s going on?

Q&A: Building a lifelong marriage

Question: As newlyweds, what can my spouse and I do to ensure that our marriage will last a lifetime?

Q&A: Moving our marriage from good to great

Question: My wife and I have a good marriage. I’d like to make it even better, but I’m not very adept at the “warm fuzzy” stuff. How do I move our relationship from good to great?

Q&A: Using humour in our home

Question: How can we use humour to promote a more cheerful and healthy atmosphere in our home?

Q&A: Realising our interests are different

Question: My husband and I were married this past March. We had a great few months and especially enjoyed doing things together during the weekend.

Q&A: Doing Most Of The House Chores

Question: My wife and I have been married just a few months, and already we’re constantly arguing about chores. I’m the one who cares that the house is clean and orderly, and so I end up doing most of the work. What should I do?

Q&A: Arguing About Little Chores

Question: My wife and I generally get along great, but I’m surprised how much we argue about little chores around the house. Is this normal?

Q&A: Getting My Husband To Help With Chores

Question: My husband works hard, and I appreciate that, but he doesn’t help out at home. I’m physically and emotionally exhausted, and the situation feels unfair (to me and to the children). How can I get him to understand the importance of helping me and of spending time with the children?

Q&A: My Wife Thinks I Don’t Help Enough With The Children

Question: Is there some way to get my wife to stop complaining about the job I’m doing as a father? I’m trying to be a good husband and dad, but no matter what I do my wife tells me that I’m not pulling my weight. If you ask me, I spend a lot of time with my children. Every night when I come home I get down on the floor and play with them. I like to wrestle with my two-year-old son. But she expects me to do things I don’t know how to do and never thought of doing — things like getting meals and changing diapers. I’m getting tired of her complaining. What should I do?

Q&A: Initiating Lovemaking With My Spouse

Question: Is it appropriate for wives to initiate sex and to take the lead on occasion when it comes to lovemaking? My husband and I enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying sex life, but that’s one thing I’ve wondered about. I guess I’ve always felt that should be the man’s place. There are times when I desire physical intimacy, but I have doubts about whether it’s right for me to get things started. Do you think this is okay?

Q&A: Keeping The Spark Alive After The Wedding

Question: My fiancé and I can’t wait to begin our new lives together. I’ll confess, though, that I’m afraid this excitement will wane into routine and familiarity – particularly with our sex life. Do you have any advice for how we can keep the spark alive?

Q&A: Getting My Husband To Help With Chores

Question: With two pre-schoolers in the house, it seems like my wife and I seldom connect anymore. She always talks about how tired she is after being with the children all day. What can I do to reinforce our relationship?

Q&A: Resolving Issue Over Frequency Of Sex In Marriage

Question: How can a couple resolve issues over the frequency of sex? My wife would be content making love once a month, which doesn’t come close to satisfying me. Which one of us is “abnormal”?

Ten Secrets To A Successful Marriage

Here are ten principles that will help you create and maintain a successful marriage.

The Inner Lives Of Husbands

“Love is all you need,” the popular song says. We women often agree - but men don't. In fact, in a nationwide survey, three out of four men said they would exchange feeling that their wives loved them if they could instead feel that their wives respected and trusted them.

The Inner Lives Of Wives

Guys, I have good news: It's easier than you probably realise to understand your wife and make her happy.

Maintaining Lifelong Commitment

Commitment and faithfulness are the foundation of a lasting, thriving marriage; honour your marriage and you will be richly rewarded with security, stability and satisfaction.

Spending Enjoyable Time Together

Learn to create a thriving marriage by sharing activities you both enjoy.

Making Time For The One You Love

Busyness seems to be a symptom of our society. It’s almost a badge of honour. We rush from activity to activity saying, “I’m so busy.” We even feel guilty if we don’t have something to do every moment.

The Heart and Soul of Date Night

“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.‚” Mark Twain

Date Night Tips

A marriage that can ascend to the heights of intimacy requires careful navigation and routine maintenance.

Learning Healthy Conflict Management

When handled well, conflicts open a deeper connection. "When trouble comes your way, consider it an opportunity."

How To Manage Conflict During The Coronavirus

It’s never easy to manage conflict in a marriage. The coronavirus has added even more challenges. Learn how to work through the conflict.

Stress And Conflict – Together We Can Overcome

Death and taxes are inescapable. No one will leave this planet without eventually facing these two issues. That’s just a fact.

4 Steps To Deal With Conflict In Your Marriage

Conflict is inevitable in marriage and can create damage or discovery — we choose which it will be. Discovery means learning new ideas, approaches and solutions if we fight together for our marriage.

Cherishing Your Spouse

Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Your spouse is your treasure; you’ve searched high and low and found each other, so cherish your treasure.

Spending Enjoyable Time Together

In the busyness of life, love isn’t self-sufficient. Your marriage must be constantly fed and nurtured by spending regular time together.

Nourishing Your Spouse

Love isn’t just a feeling; it is action and behaviour. It’s important that you regularly nourish your relationship with your loved one in ways that speak love to him/her.

Enhancing Positive Communication

Communication gives life to your marriage. Take time to discover your spouse again and again, and allow your spouse to deeply know you.

Managing Shared Responsibility

As a married couple, you are on the same team. Therefore, make decisions and divide household responsibilities in a way that honours both people.

A Wife’s Response To Mental Burdens

During some seasons, you might become bitter as a result of feeling like you’re doing more than your spouse. If this issue resurfaces often for you, Erin Smalley has some suggestions to help.

7 Team-Building Games For A Winning Marriage

Cue eye-rolls and unenthusiastic groans. At least that’s how television parodies corporate team-building exercises, airing failed “trust falls” and distasteful “diversity days.”

How To Be Your Spouse’s #1 Cheerleader

“You are always late!”

Growing In Physical Intimacy

Sex brings two people together in the deepest, most profound intimacy possible.

Great Sex Doesn’t Just Happen

Having sex is a natural physiological practice. People have figured it out on their own since the beginning of time. Without how-to books or online instructional courses, people from every tribe and nation manage to procreate. Because sex is natural, we tend to put it in the category of other natural physical acts like eating and sleeping. You don’t have to focus on learning how to master these things – they just naturally happen.

Intimacy Requires Vulnerability

For emotional intimacy to grow, each partner must be willing to meet the other’s deepest needs and protect the other’s greatest vulnerability.

Sexual Needs: His & Hers

Like most newlyweds, Josh and Jenny had anticipated the unity and ecstasy of married sexuality. Even though their honeymoon wasn’t perfect, they still hoped they would ‘click’ and discover the ultimate beauty of sexual oneness. After two years of frustration, their optimism began to wane.

Marriage Matters

Hear from marriage experts Dr Greg and Erin Smalley on how to stay strong during a crisis.

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Dr. Huang Wei-Jen's Date Night @ Home Sharing

Hear a practical sharing on how to overcome trials and challenges as husband and wife and ways to increase satisfaction and happiness in your marriage from clinical psychologist, Dr. Huang Wei-Jen.

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The Perfect 10 Marriage

Hear from these six couples from six different countries, along with Dr Greg and Erin Smalley, as they share their unique marriage experiences, and discuss 5 key areas in marriage.

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The Key To Connecting With Your Spouse Each Day

Couples tend to drift apart rather than towards each other at the end of a long day. Choosing to intentionally connect with your spouse each day makes a world of difference in the strength of your marriage.

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How To Manage Conflict In Marriage? He Says…

Have you ever been really angry with your spouse? Take a deeper look at the reason behind the anger to manage conflict in a marriage.

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How To Manage Conflict In Marriage? She Says…

Just as there are two sides to every coin, this couple reminds us that understanding each other’s perspectives is key to managing conflict in a marriage.

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Greg & Erin Smalley Date Night @ Home Sharing

Hear a practical sharing from marriage experts, Greg & Erin Smalley on how to “Resist the Drift” by staying connected and re-discovering each other.

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Intentionally Growing Together In Marriage

One of the keys to a successful marriage is living out a shared life with your spouse—shared interests, shared moments, shared friendships. How far are you willing to go to intentionally grow together in your marriage?

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Married And On The Same Team (Part 1)

Couples often discover that they do things very differently after marriage. These differences can be assets rather than drawbacks when couples learn to work together as a team.

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Married And On The Same Team (Part 2)

Have you ever felt that your spouse is against you rather than for you? Here’s how becoming your spouse’s teammate can help you move forward.

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Married And On The Same Team (Part 3)

Instead of trying to change your spouse, try to be the best version of yourself and bring out the best in your marriage.

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Intimacy in a Marriage | Keeping The Curiosity Alive

When was the last time you were curious about your spouse? Intimacy in a marriage goes beyond physical relationship. It is about keeping that curiosity (Yes! from the first date) about each other alive and learning to stay current with our spouse.

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The Key To Connecting With Your Spouse Each Day

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